Monday, February 18, 2008

The Things I Want

The things I so desperatly want my husband to do to me and for me are to gently touch my hand or the small of my back when he walks past and to tell me how much he loves me and how thankful he is for me half a dozen ish times a day. My husband is GREAT and he is pretty good at sometimes doing things like this but not as often as of lately. Things are pretty tense between us. He works 3rd shift and is having a hard time sleeping during the day. He is more worried about the finances than I am. He's more frustrated about our messy house. All these things and more I'm sure are making our marriage rough. I know he loves me I just don't always know. And then it hit me...I'm so concerned about what I want FROM him, what about what he wants or needs from me. The other day he came home from work and told me he had a bad night. He talked a bit about it and then I went down to deal with the kids. When he woke up I was frustrated with the kids and with my husband about something. A few minutes later he told me that he was hurt because he had a bad day at work and then I raged on him. It was at that point that I saw that just as much as I need things from him he needs things from me. After that I listened to him and prayed for him and asked for his forgiveness. So many days I get caught up in my own problems that I don't even think about my husbands problems or heart aches let alone other peoples.
God is trying to do something in our lives, we just need to be still and trust Him.


kindredheart said...


I so appreciate your heart and your humility. I've been thinking of you and praying for you lots since last night. Praying that each one of us gives God access to our hearts and the freedom to change and transform us into His image. As He makes us over from the inside, each one of us will be what our spouses need.

Much love, friend ~

Beth said...

I'm right there with ya! It's funny--I read your blog after I wrote mine today and I just felt that we were coming from similar places, although you wrote your entry about a month ago. Sometimes it's hard to just put your spouse first, but in the end it's the best thing for a marriage. I'm so glad that I got to read your blog today! It truly warms my heart to know a sister in Christ like you! :)

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carrie*postma said...

hi Heather,
Thank you for coming by my blog and leaving an encouraging comment. I appreciate that!
Your post about looking to what your hubby wants is so real and true. I find myself getting caught up in the "me me's" and forgetting that my husband has needs too. Thanks for the reminder!